You ended up being abstinent for twelve years. Were you dating during that time?
Oh, of course I went on dates. My reaction was always, “Well, I’ll meet him, and then I’ll see.” I was hoping, but it was very abstract. It’s rare to find a man who really charms you. During that period, I fell in love twice. But, obviously, it was with impossible men. Married men, gay men. It’s very difficult to find a partner. That’s why I waited so long. Because I told myself, Okay, I give up. I will return to sexual activities when it is worth it — and it took more than ten years.Yep. I'd wager that it's the scarcity of men who really charm you - and are not married, gay or otherwise unavailable - that is the primary cause of celibacy for most single women.